Why you aren’t building up confidence

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Confidence is the key...

The key that we just seem to lose all the time!

Each day, as we wake up, we more or less do know how it will pan out. There are things that need to be done and obstacles that need to be overcome. It’s these everyday challenges, which aren’t to overwhelming yet still need your attention, that keep things interesting.

Every successful effort is key to building up confidence. And like we’ve said, “confidence is key”. But more often than not, it deserts us in moments of real need or doesn’t come to us in the first place. No matter how many books you read, people you talk to or calming breaths you take, something is always missing.

WHY IS THAT? 

There’s a pretty simple answer. 

Most people will have you believe that confidence comes from preparation, maybe even over preparation. The more you simulate challenging scenarios in your mind, the more you practice, the more you’re building up confidence. And in some amount this does help, however it isn’t the be all and end all.

You’re better off building up confidence through failure.

What that is meant to do is to get you out there and at least attempting what you’ve been training for! So many times we give up before we even make a single attempt and then wonder where the confidence went? But if you can remove the fear of failure, just for a little while, then you’ll do something extraordinary. Building up confidence that lasts a lifetime and not just a few seconds is the true goal, right?

This can only happen when you let your fears take over and then you conquer them. That is when you find permanence. Should you really fail, you’ll still gain some confidence as you’ll know what to do next time, only if you keep a clear mind.

So, building up confidence requires failure?

building up confidence

Not exactly, it requires you to make an attempt and not a mock one in front of friends and loved ones but a raw and real one. The one with the sweaty palms, shaking fingers, trebling knees and a ‘Hail Mary!’ Somewhere in that world lies what you seek.

It’s one of the hardest things to do in the world, which is why it is so rewarding. If you can push yourself beyond the everyday and the ordinary, then you have something special that you know sets you apart. What’s a bigger confidence booster than that?

So today, go out there and make an attempt. That’s all you need to ask of yourself, and give it your absolute best. You’ll find that you’ve been holding the key to building up confidence all along!

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